The elusive “THE ONE”

“And unto one he gave five talents, to another two, and to another one; to every man according to his several ability” Matthew 25:15 KJV

Most of us knows the parable of the talents. Am applying this to Singleness does not equal loneliness. Read before people start judging that am misapplying scripture etc etc LoL. 

God gives each person according to their ability. So God knows each persons ability and knows what would bring maximum glory to Himself.

Why?

Well because, If your a believer of Jesus. Born again basically means dying to oneself and raising up with Christ. So anything and everything we should be to glorify Christ. 

Including marriage, how we use our stuff, everything. 

And by inviting the Holy Spirit in us, God Himself tells us what to do and how to behave and opens doors that make us more like Christ bringing maximum glory to Him.

And about finding “THE ONE” like it’s some kind of a treasure hunt. God knows what’s best for us who trust in. Even if it doesn’t make sense. People have been Martyred for the gospel and God is still good and is in control, loves them and they are with Him. So Iets not confuse easy with Gods best for us.

But nowadays People keep feeding us this stuff where your not complete till you find the one, or your lonely till you find the one. So most of us just keep thinking about a future “the one” and making our present look incomplete. But the Bible says we get purpose, fulfilment, hopefulness through Christ. 

Don’t get me wrong marriage is the great. It was Gods idea. God gives that to some people to learn to be more like Him through a covenant relationship. 

But some people don’t get married, so are they lonely or left out. Did God get His economics wrong where the demand was higher than the supply?

Well I don’t think so because if marriage was the only end goal of a Christians life Jesus would have gotten married and showcased that. But Jesus was single and complete, Paul was single and complete and wrote most books of the New Testament. 

And God knows what we need whether it’s singleness or marriage more than we do. He gives according to our abilities that we bring most Glory to Him. 

And we have also seen the flip side of not waiting for God. Abraham didn’t wait for Isaac and we know the result of that. And lots of people just settled with anyone just because they wanted to be “Married” without even consulting God. Well they either went away from God or ended up in a lifetime war with a spouse trying to drag them to God. So wait. And even if you haven’t waited it’s ok, God can redeem but it’s better to wait for option 1 than God redeeming our mess. 

Walked back on memory lane recently. It was like rewind and going through a photo album after I met old friends after more than 10 years. God's starting to work in me again and teach me things that I refused to learn at a point of my life. He took me back right there and said ok start again, LEARN. I guess there are things we all run from, but mine was I didn't like to get close to people.  I liked my space. I chose friends who would stay arms distance away and also who I could hang out with. I didn't want deep conversations, corrections and all that stuff. No I liked my space. God broke that a few years ago when I met my best friend. Now He's going back there to teach me to be better with people I don't want to be better to. To basically love those I don't want to love. It's pretty easy to love your best friend and friends it's easy even not to hate. It's hard to actively care about people you'd just prefer to be on neutral with. I had to meet these people to see myself and where I was wrong and needed to learn. Before that I just didn't want to go there. Interesting how He used unrelated incidences to remind us to do something.

Side note a little off topic: I also realised recently that the most beautiful people I have met are the ones that have the most esteem issues. This isn't for everyone. My friend I met had turned out to be such a beautiful young lady who loves Jesus and really genuine person. But it's sad that a person as such has self esteem barriers. I wish I really wish I could put a mirror in front of her face and say see how God really sees you. See your self for who you are. I wish all those lies broke instantly.

Anyways back to topic. Well we all have that thing where we don't want to learn a lesson. Well I think God's ways are pretty uncomfortable at times. Humbling too. I knew I had to ask help to learn to become a softer person who relates to people better. Normally I would sit in my zone thinking I like to be by myself and I like my space, I like my own company. Some of us out there just got too comfortable in our own skins. Like my mom used to say I am too easy going.  Well I realised today that God sometimes isn't easy going. He wants us to reflect His character and take ourselves seriously.  Even in areas that we just would prefer to ignore.
#gamechanger #levelup